With the holidays around the corner you will likely be exposed to some events, parties or networking opportunities in the coming weeks. Make the most of them with these tips for starting or engaging in a conversation. Whether you need material for engaging your boss socially, connecting with a client or conversing with e co-worker, here are 6 tips to keep you going through the end of the year and beyond:
- If you want to be interesting in conversation, be an interesting person. Stay informed on current events. Even listening to news-radio in your car for a few minutes on your commute can get you up to speed. Get involved in activities that excite you, as people appreciate others who have passion for what they do or are involved in.
- A little preparation will go a long way in enabling you to easily converse with others. Keep a mental list of good topics of discussion and ways to break the ice you can use when you need to.
- Most people like to talk about themselves and will respond positively when asked simple, friendly questions. Don’t be afraid to ask questions then make an effort to be a good listener. After you make the initial effort, listen closely to the other person’s response. Use questions to draw out more information from them on a topic that is of interest to them. Often you’ll find an invitation to continue the conversation if you listen carefully and respond accordingly.
- Try to remember small details about co-workers and acquaintances. Asking a follow up question about a weekend plan or a relative is an excellent way to start a conversation and show genuine interest in those around you.
- Learning how to start a conversation is really just using good manners and showing a genuine interest in others. Balance is the key in any conversation. Alternate between talking and listening to what the other person is saying and make additional comments as appropriate.
- Developing self-confidence is an important part of learning how to start a conversation. Even if you find it extremely difficult, always greet those you encounter with a smile and look them directly in the eye. It may be hard at first, but self-confidence is a learned skill and by acting confidently, you will gain new self-confidence. Soon enough you will notice that it is not as hard to maintain eye contact and carry on a conversation. Act confidently and you will eventually become confident.