There’s nothing as unsettling as the feeling you get when you’ve become used to being successful, and then you try something new – and it doesn’t exactly “work”.
“Nothing ventured, nothing gained.” “If at first you don’t succeed – try and try again.” “When you fall down, get right back up and start again.” Those are the kinds of things people often say they believe about the road to success, trying new & uncertain things and learning from mistakes. We say those things – but how many of us believe them? How many of us truly live like we believe them?
Even though we know that failure is part of the process of becoming (and staying) successful, it never feels good. Disappointing, humbling, a little embarrassing – just a few of the words that came to my mind after recently attempting something new in front of a room full of people. It’s not that it was horrible, or a total failure – it just wasn’t great, not as effective as I had wanted it to be, as I thought it should have been. So then why did it feel SO uncomfortable? I had become used to being really good at what I do, effective & successful, used to accolades and enthusiastic responses. On a scale from 1-10, I had worked hard to almost always be a 10. Not an eight. Eight does not feel nearly as good as ten.
Feel … want … should … expectation. Dangerous words if we aren’t careful. It feels good to be the expert, the one that always delivers, knowing that you’ve earned respect, and that people have learned to have high expectations of you – but if we aren’t careful the expectations of others and of ourselves can become a box. Without close attention we can accidentally miss opportunities for growth and further success by not allowing ourselves outside of the “box” where we can be sure we are great. Boxes were invented to keep things inside of them. Even a big box is designed to hold something.
When I sat down to do my usual post-workshop exercise, “what went well, what didn’t, what do we keep, what do we get rid of” – I was having a hard time getting past the “eight” feeling. It made me want to throw it all out – but I know better. I know in my heart the instinct and intention I have for this effort is valid, my clients have a need for it, and I know how to help them. The truth is that the real problem was, that it had been a little longer than I realized since I had stepped far enough out, to be really hanging out there. Something my Dad always said to me when I growing up popped into my head, “If you’re not failing on a regular basis then you’re not trying enough new things.” I believe that! But without realizing it, I had stopped living like that for a little while. What I needed to throw out was the safety net, punch a big hole in the box (and my ego), follow my gut, and rework the material.
Henry Ford said, “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” I almost let the pursuit of perfection, derail me from the pursuit of my passion to work with others to help them achieve their goals – if even for a little time! We don’t have to be perfect out of the gate – it is an unrealistic expectation. We only have to keep trying our best, purposefully learn from our mistakes, and improve each time we do it.
Most importantly remember to laugh at the “failures”. If you think about it – aren’t your best stories about the times when something went wrong, or didn’t go according to plan? Make a deal with yourself today: from here on when things don’t go well, or you flat out fail – you will remind yourself that you just put a deposit into the “memory bank”, that in 6 months, a year, or five years from now will be a funny story you’ll tell. Make it funny not failure.
Thomas Edison had 1,000 failed attempts before inventing the light bulb – and he said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work!” Don’t let the pursuit of perfection keep you from your best! Read the list of 50 Famously Successful People Who “Failed” First below!
50 Famously Successful People Who Failed At First
Not everyone who’s on top today got there easily. More often than not, those who history best remembers were faced with numerous obstacles that forced them to work harder and show more determination than others. Next time you’re feeling down about your failures, keep these fifty famous people in mind and remind yourself that sometimes failure is just the first step towards success!
Business Gurus
- Henry Ford: Known today for his innovative assembly line and American-made cars, he wasn’t an instant success. In fact, his early businesses failed and left him broke five times before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company.
- R. H. Macy: Most people are familiar with this large department store chain, but most don’t know that he started seven failed businesses before finally hitting it big with his store in New York City.
- F. W. Woolworth: Some may not know this name today, but Woolworth was once one of the biggest names in department stores in the U.S. Before starting his own business, young Woolworth worked at a dry goods store and was not allowed to wait on customers because his boss said he lacked the sense needed to do so.
- Soichiro Honda: The billion-dollar business that is Honda began with a series of failures and fortunate turns of luck. Honda was turned down by Toyota Motor Corporation for a job after interviewing for a job as an engineer, and he was jobless for quite some time. He started making scooters on his own at home, and spurred on by his neighbors, finally started his own business.
- Akio Morita: You may not have heard of Morita but you’ve most certainly heard of his company, Sony. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that unfortunately burned rice rather than cook it, and sold less than 100 units. But this setback didn’t stop Morita and his partners as they kept moving forward and created a multi-billion dollar company.
- Bill Gates: Gates started his walk to success by dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data, before creating the global empire that is Microsoft.
- Harland David Sanders: Better known as Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken fame, he had a hard time selling his chicken at first. In fact, his famous secret chicken recipe was rejected 1,009 times before a restaurant accepted it.
- Walt Disney: Today Disney rakes in billions from merchandise, movies and theme parks around the world, but Walt Disney himself had a bit of a rough start. He was fired by a newspaper editor because, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, Disney started a number of businesses that didn’t last too long and ended with bankruptcy and failure. He kept plugging along, however, and eventually found a recipe for success that “worked”.
Scientists and Thinkers
These people are often regarded as some of the greatest minds of our century, but they often had to face great obstacles, the ridicule of their peers and the animosity of society.
- Albert Einstein: Today it’s a name synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. Eventually he went on to win the Nobel Prize and change the face of modern physics.
- Charles Darwin: In his early years he gave up on having a medical career and was often chastised by his father for being lazy and too dreamy. Darwin himself wrote, “I was considered by all my masters and my father a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard of intellect.”
- Robert Goddard: Goddard today is hailed for his research and experimentation with liquid-fueled rockets, but during his lifetime his ideas were often rejected and mocked by his scientific peers who thought they were outrageous and impossible. Today rockets and space travel aren’t considered far-fetched at all, due largely in part to the work of this scientist who worked against the feelings of the time.
- Isaac Newton: Newton was undoubtedly a genius when it came to math, but he had some failings early on. He never did particularly well in school and when put in charge of running the family farm, he failed so poorly that an uncle took charge and sent him off to Cambridge where he finally blossomed into the scholar we know today.
- Socrates: Despite leaving no written records behind, Socrates is regarded as one of the greatest philosophers of the Classical era. Because of his ideas, in his own time he was called “an immoral corrupter of youth” and was sentenced to death. Socrates didn’t let this stop him and kept right on, teaching up until he was forced to poison himself.
- Robert Sternberg: This big name in psychology received a C in his first college introductory psychology class with his teacher telling him that, “there was already a famous Sternberg in psychology and it was obvious there would not be another.” Sternberg showed him, however, graduating from Stanford with exceptional distinction in psychology, summa cum laude, and Phi Beta Kappa and eventually becoming the President of the American Psychological Association.
Inventors
These inventors changed the face of the modern world, but not without a few failed prototypes along the way.
- Thomas Edison: In his early years teachers told Edison he was “too stupid to learn anything.” He was fired from his first two jobs for not being productive enough. Even as an inventor Edison first made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb.
- Orville and Wilbur Wright: Both brothers battled depression and family illness before starting the bicycle shop that would lead them to experimenting with flight. It took numerous attempts at creating flying machines, several years of hard work, and tons of failed prototypes, the brothers finally created a plane that could get airborne and stay there.
Public Figures
From politicians to talk show hosts, these figures had a few failures before they came out on top.
- Winston Churchill: This Nobel Prize-winning, twice-elected Prime Minster of the United Kingdom wasn’t always as well regarded as he is today. Churchill struggled in school and failed the sixth grade. After school he faced many years of political failures, as he was defeated in every election for public office until he finally became the Prime Minister at the ripe old age of 62.
- Abraham Lincoln: Today he is remembered as one of the greatest leaders of our nation, but Lincoln’s life was not easy. In his youth he went to war a captain and returned a private (in case you’re not familiar with military ranks – a private is as low as it goes.) Lincoln didn’t stop failing there. He started numerous failed businesses and was defeated in numerous runs he made for public office.
- Oprah Winfrey: Known Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, enduring a rough and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for TV.”
- Harry S. Truman: This WWI vet, Senator, Vice President and eventual President eventually found success in his life, but not without a few missteps along the way. Truman started a store that sold silk shirts and other clothing–seemingly a success at first–only go bankrupt a few years later.
- Dick Cheney: This recent Vice President and businessman made his way to the White House but managed to flunk out of Yale University, not once, but twice. Former President George W. Bush joked with Cheney about this fact, stating, “So now we know –if you graduate from Yale, you become president. If you drop out, you get to be vice president.”
Hollywood & Celebrities
These actors, actresses and directors saw their fair share of rejection and failure before they made it big.
- Jerry Seinfeld: Just about everybody knows who Seinfeld is, but the first time the young comedian walked on stage at a comedy club, he looked out at the audience and froze, and was eventually jeered and booed off of the stage. Seinfeld knew he could do it, so he went back the next night, completed his set to laughter and applause, and the rest is history.
- Fred Astaire: In his first screen test, the testing director of MGM noted that Astaire “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” Going on to become an incredibly successful actor, singer and dancer, he kept that note in his Beverly Hills home to remind him of where he came from.
- Sidney Poitier: After his first audition, Poitier was told by the casting director, “Why don’t you stop wasting people’s time and go out and become a dishwasher or something?” Poitier vowed to show him that he could make it, going on to win an Oscar and becoming one of the well-regarded actors in the business.
- Jeanne Moreau: As a young actress just starting out, this French actress was told by a casting director that she was simply not pretty enough to make it in films. Moreau when on to star in nearly 100 films and win numerous awards for her performances.
- Charlie Chaplin: It’s hard to imagine film without the iconic Charlie Chaplin, but his act was initially rejected by Hollywood studio chiefs because they felt it was a little too nonsensical to ever sell.
- Lucille Ball: She had thirteen Emmy nominations and four wins, earning the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Kennedy Center Honors. Before starring in I Love Lucy, Ball was widely regarded as a failed actress and a B movie star. Even her drama instructors didn’t feel she could make it, telling her to try another profession.
- Harrison Ford: In his first film, Ford was told by the movie execs that he simply didn’t have what it takes to be a star. Today, with numerous hits under his belt, iconic portrayals of characters like Han Solo and Indiana Jones, and a career that stretches decades, he obviously does in fact have what it takes.
- Marilyn Monroe: While Monroe’s star burned out early, she did have a period of great success in her life. Despite a rough upbringing and being told by modeling agents that she should instead consider being a secretary, Monroe became a pin-up, model and actress that still strikes a chord with people today.
- Oliver Stone: This Oscar-winning filmmaker began his first novel while at Yale, a project that eventually caused him to fail out of school. The text was rejected by publishers and was not published until 1998, at which time it was not well-received. After dropping out of school, Stone moved to Vietnam to teach English, later enlisting in the army and fighting in the war, a battle that earned him two Purple Hearts and helped him find the inspiration for his later work that often center around war.
Writers and Artists
We’ve all heard about starving artists and struggling writers, and these that pushed through to become beloved and well-known.
- Vincent Van Gogh: During his lifetime, Van Gogh sold only one painting, and this was to a friend and only for a very small amount of money. While Van Gogh was never a success during his life, he plugged on with painting sometimes starving to complete over 800 known works. Today, they bring in hundreds of millions.
- Emily Dickinson: Recluse and poet Emily Dickinson is a commonly read and loved writer. Yet in her lifetime she was all but ignored, having fewer than a dozen poems published out of her almost 1,800 completed works.
- Theodor Seuss Giesel: Today nearly every child has read The Cat in the Hat or Green Eggs and Ham, yet 27 different publishers rejected Dr. Seuss’s first book To Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street.
- Charles Schultz: The Peanuts comic strip has had enduring fame, yet this cartoonist had every cartoon he submitted rejected by his high school yearbook staff. Even after high school, Schultz applied and was rejected for a position working with Walt Disney.
- Steven Spielberg: He was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Theater, Film and Television three times. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a director before finishing. Thirty-five years after starting his degree, Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to finally complete his work and earn his BA.
- Stephen King: The first book by this author, the iconic thriller Carrie, received 30 rejections finally causing King to give up and throw it in the trash. His wife fished it out and encouraged him to resubmit it, and the rest is history. King has written & had hundreds of books published, and has the distinction of being one of the best-selling authors of all time.
- Zane Grey: Incredibly popular in the early 20th century, this adventure book writer began his career as a dentist, something he quickly began to hate. So, he began to write, only to see rejection after rejection for his works, being told eventually that he had no business being a writer and should give it up. It took him years, but at 40, Zane finally got his first work published, leading to almost 90 books and selling over 50 million copies worldwide.
- J. K. Rowling: Before she published the series of Harry Potter novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.
- Monet: Today Monet’s work sells for millions of dollars and hangs in some of the most prestigious institutions in the world. Yet during his own time, it was mocked and rejected by the artistic elite, the Paris Salon. Monet kept at his impressionist style, which caught on and in many ways was a starting point for some major changes to art that ushered in the modern era.
- Jack London: One of the most beloved and well-known American authors, he wasn’t always such a success. While he would go on to publish popular novels like White Fang and The Call of the Wild, his first story received six hundred rejection slips before finally being accepted.
- Louisa May Alcott: Most people are familiar with Alcott’s most famous work, Little Women. Yet Alcott faced a bit of a battle to get her work out there and was encouraged to find work as a servant by her family to make ends meet. It was her letters back home during her experience as a nurse in the Civil War that gave her the first big break she needed.
Musicians
While their music is some of the best selling, best loved and most popular around the world today, these musicians show that it takes a whole lot of determination to achieve success.
- Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart: Mozart began composing at the age of five, writing over 600 pieces of music that today are lauded as some of the best ever created. Yet during his lifetime, Mozart didn’t have such an easy time, and was often restless, leading to his dismissal from a position as a court musician in Salzberg. He struggled to keep the support of the aristocracy and died with little to his name.
- Elvis Presley: One of the best-selling artists of all time. But back in 1954 Elvis was still a nobody, and the manager of the Grand Ole Opry, fired Elvis Presley after just one performance telling him, “You ain’t goin’ nowhere, son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.”
- Igor Stravinsky: In 1913 when he debuted his now famous Rite of Spring, audiences rioted & ran the composer out of town. Yet it was this very work that changed the way composers in the 19th century thought about music and cemented his place in musical history.
- The Beatles: when they were just starting out, a recording company told them no. They were told “we don’t like your sound, and guitar music is on the way out.
- Ludwig van Beethoven: In his formative years young Beethoven was incredibly awkward on the violin and was often so busy working on his own compositions that he neglected to practice. Despite his love of composing, his teachers felt he was hopeless at it and would never succeed with the violin or in composing. Beethoven went on to compose some of the best-loved symphonies of all time–five of them while he was completely deaf.
Athletes
While some athletes rocket to fame, others endure a different path.
- Michael Jordan: He was cut from his high school basketball team. Jordan didn’t let this setback stop him from playing the game and he has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
- Stan Smith: This tennis player was rejected from even being a lowly ball boy for a Davis Cup tennis match because event organizers felt he was too clumsy and uncoordinated. Smith went on to win Wimbledon, U. S. Open and eight Davis Cups.
- Babe Ruth: You probably know Babe Ruth because of his home run record (714 during his career), but along with all those home runs came a pretty hefty amount of strikeouts as well (1,330 in all). In fact, for decades he held the record for strikeouts. When asked about this he simply said, “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
- Tom Landry: As the coach of the Dallas Cowboys, Landry brought the team two Super Bowl victories, five NFC Championship victories and holds the record for the most career wins. He also has the distinction of having one of the worst first seasons on record (winning no games) and winning five or fewer over the next four seasons.